Kumakhaya aseMzantsi Afrika, amakhulu amawaka  abafundi besikolo nabaseYunivesithi bafundela iimviwo zabo zaphakathi enyakeni. Abazali abaninzi bayavuma ukuba eli lixesha elinomngeni kakhulu, akuphelelanga nje kubafundi kodwa nabazali kunye nabagcini ngokwabo, abafuna ukuxhasa umntwana wabo kangangoko banako ukwenza ngokufanelekileyo, kodwa abangasoloko besazi indlela engcono yokwenza oko ngaphandle kokuphazama kwicala le-helicoptering ye-equation.
“Ngenxa yeemeko zethu ezikhoyo ngoku eMzantsi Afrika, amakhaya sele ephantsi koxinizelelo olukhulu, nto leyo ethetha ukuba abazali nabagcini babantwana kunoxinano oluncinci nangakumbi kunangaphambili xa bencedisa abantwana babo. Ukujonga ngokungaqhelekanga amaqela e-t parenting kumaqonga onxibelelwano  kungqina imiceli mngeni eyahlukeneyo abazali abajongene nayo malunga nokubonelela  ngenkxaso efanelekileyo kunye nenkuthazo ngaphandle kokubeka ungcipheko wokunyuka kweengxabano, “utshilo uGqr Linda Meyer, MD we-Independent Institute of Education’s Rosebank College. ”
Uthi eyona nto  yokuqala – neyona ibalulekileyo – emayenziwe ngabazali, kukuqinisekisa ukuba bayazilawula iimvakalelo nabakulindeleyo phambi kokuba bangenelele ukunika inkxaso.
“Abazali mabaqinisekise ukuba bazolile kwaye bakwindawo yokuba zintsika yenkxaso endaweni yokubangumngeni ekufuneka umntwana aqale awoyise. Enye indlela yokufezekisa isiseko esilinganayo ngokweemvakalelo kukugcina uhambo lwezemfundo kwimbono. Ngenxa yokuba ubushushu buqhubeka ngalo mzuzu kwaye imfundo yomntwana iyaqhubeka, isoloko ikho indawo yokukhula, ukuphuhlisa nokuphucula.
“Hlakulela ukuqonda ukuba nangona izibonda ziphezulu, ingakumbi kubafundi abakwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, kuya kusoloko kukho iindlela ezivulekileyo zokuqhubela phambili. Â Ukufezekisa oku kuqonda kukuko kuya kunceda abazali ukuba bangakhokhelisi iziphumo okanye iimeko ezimbi kakhulu, kodwa kunoko bancedise umntwana wabo ngokuzolileyo ngenkxaso yolungiselela umntwana kwinjongo yakhe yokufunda ayidingayo ngeli xesha, ” utshilo uGqr Meyer.
Uthi abazali banokunceda ekudaleni amava afanelekileyo okufunda kwiiveki ezilandelayo ngendlela elandelayo:
INKXASO YE-LOGISTICS
- Izicwangciso
Yiba phezu kweshedyuli yovavanyo lomfundi uze  ubancede baqulunkqe isicwangciso sokufunda esisengqiqweni. Ukuba wonke umntu ukwiphepha elifanayo malunga noko kufuneka kuhlaziywe xa bobabini umfundi kunye nomzali bengafane babe nexhala ngokuhamba kwexesha. Akuncedi ukugcina ukukhumbuza umfundi ukuba afunde ukuba akukho sicwangciso esiqinileyo esikhoyo.
- Ukuziqhelanisa nobugcisa bokubhala
Ukuncedisa abantwana ngokufumana amaphepha emviwo ezidlulileyo kunye nokuphindaphinda imeko yeemviwo ekhaya ngokuzivavanya ubhala elo phepha. Â Ukugxininisa ukuba oku kuziqhelanisa kujolise kubugcisa bokubhala phantsi kweemeko ezithile kwaye ukuphonononga iziphumo zoviwo lwasekhaya lokugqibela kunika ithuba lokuchonga iindawo ezifuna ukuqwalaselwa ngakumbi. Susa uxinzelelo lokuba injongo kukufezekisa amanqaku aphezulu ekhaya.
- Fumaneka ukuze uncedise
Nika inkxaso xa umntwana wakho efuna uncedo ekuqondeni ingcamango, ukuphonononga izinto eziphathekayo, okanye ukuququzelela isicwangciso sakhe sokufunda. Nangona kunjalo, khuthaza izakhono ezizimeleyo zokusombulula iingxaki kunye nokuhlalutya okubukhali.
- Nciphisa ixesha eligqithisileyo lesikrini
Qonda ukuba ixesha lesikrini lidla ngokuba yindlela yokuphepha eyenza ixesha elide lokuzibekela amangomso izinto.  Beka imida ecacileyo ukuqinisekisa ukuba ezobugcisa zisetyenziswa njengesixhobo esiluncedo okanye umvuzo kunokuba uphazamise kwaye uyichaphazele kakubi inkqubo yokufunda ekuvunyelwene ngayo.
INKXASO EPHELELEYO
- Okusingqongileyo
Yenza kangangoko kunokwenzeka, imeko-bume enoxolo kunye nenkxaso. Ukunikezelwa kweemfuno, imiceli mngeni kunye namanqwanqwa aphezulu anxulumene neemviwo, oko akusoloko kulula, kodwa kuhlala kuyinjongo efanelekileyo yokuzabalaza. Abafundi banokugxila kwaye basebenze ngcono xa ixhala elongezelelweyo kunye noxinzelelo luncitshisiwe, kwaye bayazi ukuba bayaxhaswa.
- Khuthaza i-Balanced Routine
Nceda umntwana wakho amisele ucwangciso olulungeleleneyo oluquka ixesha elaneleyo lokufunda – ikhefu, ukwenza umthambo nokuphumla. Inkqubo ecwangciswe kakuhle inokunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokuphucula imveliso.
- Ukufunda ubusuku bonke
Abazali kufuneka baqinisekise ukuba abantwana babo balala ngokwaneleyo, ngaphandle kwexesha kunye nokuzilolonga, kwaye bakhethe ukutya okunempilo kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Zama ukubaqhuba kude neqhinga lokufunda  ubusuku bonke bexhathise ngeziselo zamandla kunye nezinye izinto ezikhuthazayo.
- Khuthaza uthethothethwano olukhululekileyo (iOpen Communication)
Yenza imeko apho umntwana wakho aziva ekhululekile ukuxoxa ngeenkxalabo zabo, iingxaki kunye nenkqubela phambili. Nceda ubakhuthaze ukuba bacele uncedo xa kufuneka babe ngumphulaphuli onovelwano. Â Kulungele ukuphulaphula ngaphandle kokugweba okanye ukucombulula le ngxaki xa umntwana efuna ukuthetha ngoloyiko, izinto ezibaxhalabisayo. Â Ukuba umfundi ubonakalisa iimpawu zokudandatheka, bakhumbuze ukuba bathathe ikhefu, baphumze ingqondo, ngelinye ixesha ake azikhuphe.
- Nika inkuthazo elungileyo (Positive Reinforcement)
Recognise kwaye uyayixabisa imizamo yomntwana wakho, inkqubela, kunye nempumelelo. Ukuqinisa okuhle kunokunyusa inkuthazo yabo kunye nokuzithemba.
“Abazali kufuneka bakhumbule ukuba wonke umntwana ukhethekile kwaye  kubalulekile ukulungelelanisa ezi zikhokelo zingentla ukuze zilungele iimfuno zomntwana wabo kunye nesitayela sokufunda. Ukubaxhasa ngokweemvakalelo nokudala imeko entle kuza kubanceda bakwazi ukuhamba ngexesha leemviwo ngempumelelo ngakumbi,” utshilo uGqirha Meyer.
“Nangona kubalulekile ukugxininisa ukubaluleka kweemviwo, uphepha ukubeka  uxinzelelo olungafanelekanga kumntwana wakho, njengoko ukulindela okungekho ngqiqweni kunye  nokugxekwa okuzinzileyo kunye nongquzulwano olujikeleze izifundo kunokukhokelela ekunyuseni ixhala kunye nokunciphisa ukusebenza.  Kwaye endaweni yokugxila kuphela kwiziphumo kunye nempumelelo, gxininisa ixabiso lokufunda, ukukhula komntu, kunye nokuqina.”
MALUNGA NOGQIRHA LINDA MEYER
UGqr Linda Meyer nguMlawuli olawulayo we-Independent Institute of Education’s Rosebank College. Ubambe iindima eziliqela zolawulo kumacandelo karhulumente nawabucala kwaye ulilungu leBhodi yeSAQA. Ubambe iziqinisekiso ezininzi, kubandakanya uGqirha weFilosofi (RSA), uGqirha woLawulo lweShishini (e-USA), i-Master of Business Administration (UK), i-Post Graduate Diploma kwi-Management Studies (UK), i-Bachelor of Business Administration, B. Com (uMthetho) kunye nezinye iiDiploma eziliqela kunye neZatifiketi eziPhezulu kunye nezatifiketi zobungcali.
