Asemahle Mdludla-Ntonga(30), founder of The Young Wives Club believes in love, unity, and in pure relations. The mother of seven got married in 2015, ever since she embarked on this journey of marriage, she realized that as a married woman you need sisters who are on the same journey as you. “I had a dream of creating a safe space for young wives a platform to vent, to celebrate, a space to talk without fear, and a happy place to be yourself no matter the situation for young wives around me,” she explains.
The Young Wives Club was formed in May 2022 when they hosted their first intimate event with the help of Kwanda Khabane founder of Lathi_tha Exquisite Events a very young wife who is new to the journey. “Our partnership led to having few women who showed interest, we meet for the event and vibe that’s where we decided to open a group where we will interact with each other,” she says. She adds that they have Sunday sessions where they meet through zoom and discuss certain topics and they nominate two wives during the week to come up with something for the session.
Asemahle is one person who believes in mental wellness, she believes if we can all be mentally stable, we can have such a pure and peaceful world, the reason our society is so mixed up is that we have so many broken souls and her inspiration behind the club was to create safe space for young wives. “We do know when we are about to get married you are told that you don’t need friends, and you can’t have friends that are not yet married but along the way we realize that we need friends, not just friends but sisters who will understand each other and support you.”
The most challenging aspect of coming up with the meet-up is that they are those people who have an unpredictable life as they can plan to meet only to find out at the last minute that one of the members has a pressing issue to attend and they must cancel to show support to their sister.
Ever since the group was created, I have learned that there are things you cannot share with your other friends but with people who are in the same dynamic as you, I know that I cannot joke about what the other wife is experiencing or even take it for granted as it might happen to you.
“The message I want young wives to take from me is that “you matter” I don’t want any wife out there on any day thinking she is below the average or other people are the most important, your happiness matters take some time out for yourself. While you are walking this journey don’t forget yourself because the unfortunate part is that you will forget yourself and realize at a very later stage that may be the cause of your brokenness or things being the way they are is that you have forgotten yourself,” she concludes.
